Dos and Don’ts for Chinese

Learn from this advice, but don’t get so hung up that you hesitate to reach out.  By all means, don’t “walk on egg shells” when you spend time with internationals.  Most of them are eager to have sincere American friends, so they will recognize your love and overlook your innocent blunders.  Teach them and they will teach you!

DO……look for ways to demonstrate your love and commitment to them.

 DON’T……argue.  The goal is not to win an argument but to lead them to Christ.

 

DO……share your own testimony; get to know them as people and friends.

 DON’T……discuss the Chinese government or position on Taiwan/human rights. Don’t push your views on American or Chinese politics.

 

DO……encourage your friends to read the Bible and other books that address their spiritual questions.

 DON’T……forget to show how your walk with Jesus makes practical differences in your daily life.

 

DO……make a distinction between true and nominal Christians.

 DON’T……assume that they have any understanding about spiritual terms.

 

DO……learn more about the Chinese culture.

 DON’T……disparage living conditions in China or talk about how much better life is for them here in the U.S.

 

DO……focus on spiritual things – especially the person and ministry of Jesus

 DON’T……ignore their questions or objections.  If you don’t know the answers, find them.

 

DO……emphasize that a personal relationship is possible with God through Jesus.

 DON’T……get discouraged if it takes them a while to come to know the Lord.

 

DO……be loving, friendly, fair, and courteous.

 DON’T……create misunderstanding by working closely with someone of the opposite sex.

 

DO……speak clearly and slow down!  Yes, these are smart people, but they may not follow your fast-paced words.

 DON’T……use a lot of English idioms, unless you are ready to explain them.

 

DO……bring them into a community of believers.

 DON’T……make them feel they have to believe before they enter your community.

 

DO……be real!

 DON’T……be afraid to admitting weaknesses in your knowledge or behavior.

 

DO……encourage those who are believers to think of how they can make a difference in their homeland – especially by sharing the gospel.

 DON’T……talk about Christian groups or people you know in China.